Grief and its aftermath affect all people at some stage. This might include grief over divorce, deaths, job upheavals, loss of physical capacities or any number of additional losses we encounter throughout life.
Research shows that, generally speaking, people are a lot more resilient than they often give themselves credit for. They’re ready to move through the bereavement process in a wholesome way, frequently feeling intense emotions immediately after the reduction, but finally making peace with it and incorporating it into the fabric of their lives.
When you experience a significant loss, it’s usually very beneficial to give yourself permission to fully experience your feelings, as opposed to burying them. Other things that people often find valuable are talking about the loss with people they’re near, linking a bereavement support group, journalling, Cocoa Beach Bat Removal, doing artwork or creating a ritual related to the loss.
However, some people do get somewhat frozen and find it difficult to move forward with their lives. Although time passes, emotionally these people never fully grieve their loss, so they take it forward with them in a toxic manner. That can manifest itself in several ways, like the person retreating from life or not having the ability to form intimate bonds with other members of the future. In those cases, professional mental health care may be called for.
Concerning books I recommend regarding despair, here are a couple of my favorites. “Healing After Loss” is especially helpful immediately following a reduction, and “The Grief Recovery Handbook” outlines a structured process for dealing with losses, recent or past. Another fantastic book is “The Other Side of Sadness” by George Bonanno, which outlines fascinating recent research to despair and the strong emotions associated with it.