Can you state right now, and without any conditions or uncertainty, you’re worthy to get whatever you may hope for or dream about? Do you believe you deserve to acquire whatever you want, as to the goals and dreams you have created for your life and your career? If something good were to happen right now in your life, or on your career, would you really and truly be happy for yourself, and accept it?
Most people would probably answer yes to those questions, as who would state no when asked if they are deserving of the finest in life? But the fact is much different, when you think about the mindset, attitude, and disposition most people have about themselves, along with the organic response they encounter when they set goals, dreams, or a plan for changes in their lives. This also occurs when good things begin to happen and there’s a natural sense of self-sabotage or a negative reactive present which begins to install.
I think at some level we all struggle, or have struggled at some stage in our lives, with accepting our natural ability to obtain the good in life. This is at least as negative as the belief that “money is the root of all evil”. So many men and women want to attain more throughout their lifetime, yet there’s so much negativity surrounding the matter of actually accomplishing greater things or acquiring more in life.
By comparison, another subject of self-development is over-emphasizing abundance, to the stage it has taken one Law of the Universe and turned it into a magic, get rich formula. I am referring to the Law of Attraction, which is but one of many Laws of this Universe, and never supposed to be the sole guide for anyone’s life. It is a law about the condition of a person’s mind, and isn’t the reply to every question someone might have regarding their life, relationship, career, or anything else for that matter. Yet there are countless books and teachers who have built entire teaching philosophies about it, and when it doesn’t work for a lot of people, this only reinforces the concept of a lack of self-worth.
This is also what happens when many individuals finally attain the outcomes they hoped for, like a new job, new relationship, new career, marketing, enhanced health, or anything else that had seemed to be something which had only been a dream. The patterns of reactive compliments and dislike may set in, together with questions associated with worthiness. By way of instance, a person may question whether they’ve worked hard enough to deserve a new job, or they might ask if they deserve a new connection. This might be followed by a vital self-analysis, and record of all the negative qualities which appear to prove this new outcome or outcome or change was not deserved.
I have also struggled with self-worth. My reactive pattern, which demonstrated my lack of feeling a feeling of internal worthiness, occurred whenever I’d dream of getting or doing or achieving something different. I’d all of a sudden get upset about something entirely different or unrelated to whatever it was I had been dreaming or thinking about. What I have discovered is that the outward signs of being mad were an indicator of the internal turmoil within me. I could see the dream, however I felt the reality and it was all too real for me, which generated internal conflict. How can I dream when I’d duties and other responsibilities which could seem to hold me back?
What this signifies is that I was unable to accept I could have a dream and move past my current reality, which also was a sign I did not think in my own self-worth. Once again, these were reactive patterns born from a lifetime of struggle, and always trying to do what was thought of as responsible, rather than reside empowered to follow a dream. This doesn’t mean it was the wrong way to live, just one that was fulfilled.
Perhaps this meant it took me longer in life to be a teacher as a result of it, yet I think now all these classes were part of what I needed to learn to now be a teacher. Now I can understand what it means to feel uncertainty and the responsive, engrained psychological patterns. This is something I’ve learned and can help teach others now, about self-worth and self love. This is also the subject I wanted to learn more about as I was connected to the Collective Consciousness of mankind and Universal Wisdom. I’ll share with you now what I heard about the energy of self-worth.
A universal truth is this: Every human being has a set of beliefs that are developed as a product of time and experience, yet the strongest formation time occurs early on in life. It’s through the formative years when others are able to assert their influence on an impressionable mind, and this influence can last far into adulthood – even if the person creating or exerting the influence is no longer around or cared about.
While beliefs can be changed, a person tends to form them early in life and then seek confirmation of these beliefs through life events.
The beliefs that are hardest to change are those that are personal in nature, those deeply connected to a person’s emotions and state of mind.
But beliefs that are deeply personal and psychological aren’t so easily changed. Those beliefs typically involve how a person believes they look, how they believe they’re fitting in with the world and their environment, how they are measuring up with others, how they feel about themselves, and how they view their overall worth.
These beliefs are deeply held and engrained at an emotional, vibrational, and energetic level, held at a chronic routine and sustained. These are long-term energetic emotional reactions and reactions which become so deeply held, a person soon forgets they exist as they simply react in precisely the same way time after time.
By way of instance, if someone has grown up believing they don’t fit into society, this becomes a permanent, negative energy cycle which is so practiced they soon forget it is a belief. This individual simply operates in life knowing they do not fit in, and whenever they’re placed into a situation which may require them to try and fit in, they automatically respond in fear or reject the very idea of trying.
If this mindset has been practiced long enough, it becomes a way of life until challenged. But to challenge a belief in this way would require something to happen which would force a man to finally reflect and uncover the reason why they respond to situations in the way they do now.
Understanding a Deficiency of Self-Worth
This is one of the most self-defeating, negative emotions and self-beliefs a individual can hold, only because it creates negative automatic answers.
There are numerous reasons why a deficiency of self-worth can start at an early stage in a person’s life. The simplest answer would be to blame one or both parents, and this overlooks the knowledge available about each person currently having selected their own life. The struggles which are a part of life are like the steps necessary to create a diamond. The more abrasive the process, the greater the outcome may be in the long-term. This does depend upon the purpose a person chooses for injecting challenges into their lives.
But problems and issues occurring early in life may weaken the natural built-in sense of value available to each and every human being. Feeling naturally worthy does not come easy for many people, not till they begin a journey of personal and spiritual transformation.
Recognizing the Emotion of Worthiness
The emotion of worthiness is really about love. To feel a lack of self-worth is to feel a lack of self-love.
You will find clues about how a person feels right now, regarding their belief about being naturally worthy. For example, a compliment, present, prize, new dream coming true, or anything coming to fruition. How does the person respond?
If there is true happiness experienced or felt, the individual believes they are worthy and deserving of what they’re about to receive. In contrast, if there are questions, hesitation, concern, or any type of resistance which manifests itself through frustration, anger, depression, or any negative feelings – this individual might not believe in their natural worthiness and the signs point towards internal turmoil. This also means they haven’t fully learned the art of self-love.
To love yourself wholly is to understand you are here because you proposed it, and you worked out the details beforehand. While you might have experienced challenges early on in life, and do so much now, it never diminishes your worthiness to get the best or anything you dream of or hope for or desire.
To love yourself means you change the practiced emotion of disbelief into one of belief, so that you may experience a better life for yourself, one without self-doubt.
The self-worth you hold is a product of this self-love you cultivate, and it radiates from within. You never need worry about asking for too much from life, as you are always worthy to have dreams – and through those fantasies you may discover your life’s plan and purpose.
To embrace self-love is to finally accept life as it happens each day, good or otherwise, with a practiced positive emotion of self indulgent, not a negative emotion of self-doubt.
In case you have struggled with questions of uncertainty, and you are not certain if you’ve ever truly loved yourself, now’s the time to develop a new belief system, to make a new life.
Just a simple reminder that will help you get started: “I planned my entire life.”
This knowledge will begin to open many emotional doors for you, such as love for yourself.
The following reminder is that: “I have access to the Collective Consciousness of humanity at all times.”
Now you are affirming your belief of self-love and self-worth. It’s not tied to anyone and requires no one else to be involved. You are also not asking anyone to get access for you, and you are not asking approval from anyone.
The last reminder is that: “The wisdom and insight I need for my life is available to me and it can be found through my mind”
With these reminders, now you can establish a practiced, positive emotion towards your own life of self-worth and self-love. Now you’re no longer needing to question whether you deserve something special in your life as you’re living your own life and connected to the origin of life, the energy of life itself.